Sex. There, I said it. Worried that I’ll have a bad influence on your kids? Recently, many state governments declared that sex education is not essential for their kids and decided to remove it from the syllabi. A committee, consisting of Rajya Sabha members, was set up to decide, and it came down overwhelmingly against sex education, issuing statements like “Sex education promotes promiscuity” and “India’s social and cultural ethos are such that sex education has absolutely no place in it”.
A manual on sex education that was submitted to the National AIDS Council Organisation was stripped of all pictures of the human anatomy or even a mention of the word “sexual intercourse”. The controversial flip chart used to explain HIV/AIDS to students was omitted, because it was found culturally insensitive. What? Are you f***ing kidding me?
Let me tell you a thing or two about culture. Old Indian culture worshipped and celebrated the act of sex and it was a very non-taboo, widely accepted part of their society. Don’t believe me? Find me just one other culture which has a whole literary treatise based on the act (I don’t need to name it now, do I). If other cultures had something similar, the Sutra wouldn’t have made such a splash in the Western world as it has, although we still continue to deny that it exists of course. Furthermore, if the distinguished committee had ever visited the temples in the country, they would’ve seen that the outsides of temples are generously adorned with sculptures of people fornicating. Do you need any more proof that our ancients obviously regarded it as something to be celebrated, not pushed into a closet and hidden? So much for our cultural ethos.
As for social ethos, let me tell you a thing or two about that too.
India is a place that actually legitimises teenage girls having sex. Not legally, but socially. We have had for many years, and still do, the practice of child marriage, resulting in this unpleasant statistic: 12% women aged between 15-19 years are mothers. 47.4% of women in the 20-24 age group were married before the age of 18, 18% before the age of 15. In a study conducted on teenagers in Kanpur and adjoining areas, it was found that 50% of rural girls did not know the meaning of menstruation. This, when almost 1 in 8 of them is going to be a mother in a few years. The committee’s stance on this issue: “Students should also be made aware that child marriage is illegal”. Sure, that has worked just fine for a hundred years, hasn’t it? Another instance of the famous “close your eyes, problem goes away” principle?
Our country has five million people that are HIV positive, second only to South Africa. 31% of these, one and a half million, are in the 15-29 age group. 40% of all new reported cases also occur in the same age group. The Indian government spends around Rs. 10 billion annually to fight AIDS. Fight it by not telling millions of kids about how it’s caused and how to prevent it? Wow, that must be some new form of teaching. Please fill me in. In another study in a town and a village in Haryana, it was found that just 5% of the rural schoolgirls and 10% of the urban knew about the need for a condom. In the Kanpur study, only 25% of the girls knew about how to avoid STDs/HIV/AIDS and pregnancy. One can bring forth millions of such statistics to prove just how “pure” our “social ethos” is. But the question is, how many HIV cases will it take for the lawmakers of the land to accept it as a problem, and stop condemning kids to a perfectly avoidable, yet disgusting fate?
And, one more aspect of our social ethos. A nationwide study by the Department of Women and Child Development says that 53.2% children have faced one or more forms of sexual abuse and at least half the perpetrators were known to the kids. Sex education is something we owe these kids. Least we can do is let them know what to safeguard against.
We are a country of a billion people and this should be proof enough that sex isn’t as taboo as it’s made out to be. We have always been walking the walk; I guess time has now come to talk the talk too. A common concern is that “innocent” kids will be exposed to the dark and dangerous world of sex. NEWS FLASH: they are already far more exposed than you think. A worryingly increasing number of teens are involved in rapes and other sexual crimes today. Are they included in the “innocent, unspoiled kids” category? Whether we like it or not, thanks to computers, internet, bluetooth and satellite television, kids are exposed to sexually explicit material at far earlier ages than the generations before them. Isn’t it better to ensure that they at least get a correct, healthy version of it from a reliable source?
All is not lost, however. In the Haryana study, sex education led 78% of rural and 33% of urban schoolgirls to declare that they would decline sex without a condom. Before the education, only 5% and 10% respectively knew about the need for a condom. A study in the United States has found that sex education does not increase the promiscuity of students, in fact, it has the opposite effect.
So, to the distinguished committee, you can act now to prevent further tragedies from befalling the millions of kids who haven’t yet gotten pregnant, or got HIV/AIDS or been sexually abused. Or you can just close your eyes and cling onto some misbegotten version of Indian culture while your son pops down to the pirated CD salesman and buys himself a couple of porn DVDs and your servant’s daughter gets married off at the age of 13 to a guy who has never heard of a condom, let alone HIV/AIDS. Your choice.



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